An extra day in February only comes along every 4 years, that’s
once every 1461 days, I’ve just worked it out and hopefully my maths is
correct!
It’s a day for doing something special. As I have no "frog" to propose to - hahahaha - I chose to spend
my day with a friend at the cinema, possibly not the best choice to be shut
indoors when the weather is so wonderful and spring like but it’s Orange Wednesday
and we did watch the most fabulous film.
The Best Exotic Marigold Hotel.
It has a stellar cast including Dame Judi Dench and Dame Maggie
Smith, which is enough to recommend it in itself.
The story is about a group of pensioners enticed to spend
their “autumn years” in India at the Best Exotic Marigold Hotel run by young
would be entrepreneur Sonny (Dev Patel from Slumdog Millionaire).
Upon arrival the hotel is not as luxurious as it has been
portrayed in the advertising. This doesn’t
deter some of the characters from throwing themselves into the local culture, while
others flounder in a foreign land. As the story develops we find out more about
each character’s secrets and why they decided to take a huge risk upping sticks
and moving half way around the globe.
Judi Dench’s character Evelyn has recently been widowed and
the film starts with her trying to get through to her internet provider and
explain that they can’t talk to the account holder as he has died – gosh I
remember that conversation so clearly. The sheer frustration of it.
It is easy to see why Evelyn wants to get away and longs for
a fresh start. I was rooting for her from the beginning, hoping India would
provide the answers she needed, a place where she fitted in, a happy ending. She also writes a
blog of her adventures which is the narrative holding the plot together. It not difficult to see why she was my favourite character.
There are plenty of twists and turns to the story. Nothing
works out quite how anyone expects but each character makes self-discoveries
along the way.
“It will all be alright in the end and if it isn’t alright
it isn’t the end.” Is a profound catchphrase that is uttered throughout, especially when things look bleak and there are inevitable disappointments.
I took comfort from the saying it means I am still somewhere in the middle of my own
story too because everything is not quite “alright”!
The film has also rekindled a sense of adventure and a yearning
to travel. India might still be a bit exotic as yet but I have already been
plotting a trip, maybe somewhere in Europe and I want to take one on my own
just like the characters in the story.
Oldest son has holidays booked for this year, youngest son
is a definite homebird like his father preferring to stay put.
I need a chance to spread my wings, but unlike those in the
film my stay will be shorter I will have to come home to my parental
responsibilities. I can’t take off indefinitely like the pensioners
whose offspring her flown the nest. That’s the predicament I find myself in.
Being widowed young doesn’t make me unique or special but it
does create interesting problems.
There are others of us out there. But we are a bit rare like
a February 29th, in some ways just another day but not something you
encounter every day or even every year.
I tried to check the statistics, am I one in 1461? All I
found were dating websites for widows – best not go there again so soon - I’m off to check out single holidays instead…
...and if you get a chance to go to the Best Exotic Marigold Hotel my advice is to take it, I promise you won't be disappointed.
