The other day I found my diary from 2010, the year Andrew died. Flicking through I discovered what happened on Mothering Sunday that year.
I took oldest son to play in a tennis event an hour away, finished reading Twilight while I sat and waited but received neither card nor present. I don't think I was too impressed - "oh well!"
Andrew was brought up not to make a fuss of Mothering Sunday. Father’s Day always fell too close to Andrew’s dad’s birthday so it was omitted from their family calendar and Mother’s Day followed suit.
Yesterday I must admit I wondered what all the fuss was about myself when my two boys were arguing over spending money on me.
Maybe it really is just a marketing ploy by the card manufacturers and florists as Andrew always suspected?
Then last night I received this text…
“Sometimes you just need to hear you’re a beautiful mum doing a great job and you’re so loved”
It was one of those round robin ones where you are supposed to pass the message on so I did.
“Takes friends to tell you tho’”
Was one reply from a single mum I know. Doing everything on your own is never easy.
“I really needed to be told that, haven’t felt like I’m doing a good job at the mo”
Was a reply from a friend who is happily married to a helpful husband.
We ALL have times when we feel guilty and inadequate, undervalued and are often left tearing our hair out. It matters not if you are a mum on your own or you have the most wonderful husband.
That’s why Mother’s Day or Mothering Sunday is important. I don’t care which one you call it but it is a day to make your mum feel appreciated and let her know you care.
Today, just as two years ago I travelled the same stretch of road as I took oldest son for a trial to be a ball boy at a major tennis tournament. Some things were the same but today I had a cup of tea brought to me in bed and a present wrapped in Christmas paper, it was all they could find!
Meanwhile my mum looked after youngest son.
While I was out she found her text and this was her reply to me
"just found your text, thank you dear, YOU ARE a good mum too"
So now it’s my turn to make her feel special and cook the dinner.
Happy Mother’s Day!